When we feel self-conscious, we tend to become more focused on ourselves. This increased self-focus can lead to feeling more nervous, causing a spiral of anxiety.

When we find ourselves in the spotlight, we may freeze up, and our voices may shake. We may feel overwhelmed, as if the attention on us has transformed from a simple light into the intense heat of a thousand burning suns.

We start to panic about the what-ifs:

• What if I forget what I’m going to say?

• What if I stuff up?

• What if I don’t do a good job?

• What if I say something funny and people don’t laugh?

• What if I’m boring?

• What if I don’t apply the lessons that you taught me?'

All these what ifs are like prison bars that prevent us from stepping into our purpose and destiny.

The solution is both simple and effective: redirect your focus from yourself to the audience.

I've been told I speak a lot and fast when I get nervous. Whenever I feel anxious, I must remind myself that at least one person in the audience truly needs to hear the message I will share in my video or speech. I must keep in mind that if they receive my message or story, it could change their life. Focusing on that individual will help me regain my composure.

Now, here's a straightforward quote from Tim Han's masterclass that I must remember next time I spiral out of control:

'Listen, Patrizia. If you don’t stop making this about you, I will bitch slap you. It’s not about you right now. It’s about the people you are about to serve. Get out of your own head. It’s NOT about you."

or I could go with my boss, Elias' version of " Two words, they start with S & I "Stop It! or I'll bury you alive in a box" when I beat myself up. (Watch the video below for context.)