Some lessons arrive slowly, whispered over years of loyal companionship and unspoken expectations. Then one day, like sunlight piercing a crack in the wall, the truth seeps in: they were never really standing with you.

I read the words in the image above and felt the ache settle in my chest, not the sharp kind, but that slow, deep sadness that surfaces when the veil is lifted. It’s not just about the friend you lose; it’s about the illusion that breaks.

You thought you were seen. You thought your kindness, your time and your loyalty mattered. You celebrated their wins, held space for their wounds and picked up the pieces when they shattered. And perhaps… you expected, hoped, they’d do the same.

It’s not easy to admit that someone you stood beside for years wasn’t truly with you. Not with their heart. Not with their intentions. Their presence may have been convenient, laughter shared, photos taken, prayers whispered, yet their loyalty never matched yours and you didn’t see it until you were no longer useful, or you had nothing left to give.

That’s when truth reveals itself. Not in abundance, but in absence.

Not in the good times, but in the silence during your wilderness.

And oh, how that silence speaks.

I’ve learned this: real friendship isn't measured by how people treat you when you're shining. It's proven by how they show up when you're shattered when you're inconvenient, messy, or quietly fading.

Let me say this softly to your heart, dear one:

You are not too much.

You were not wrong to love that deeply.

Your loyalty was never wasted — it revealed who you are.

So even if they never truly saw you, God did. He still does, and while this loss hurts, He is gently removing what was never rooted in truth so that your heart can make room for what is.

A Soul Reflection

Have I mistaken proximity for loyalty? 🤔

Have I silenced my heart’s needs to hold onto connection? 🤔

What is Holy Spirit asking me to release today? 🤔

A Whispered Prayer

Jesus, You know the sting of betrayal, of false friendship, of being abandoned in the hour of deepest need. Thank You that You never leave, never pretend, never fail. Heal the parts of me that still grieve friendships that weren’t mutual. Help me love without fear, but with discernment. Teach me to recognise the ones who truly walk beside me and to be that kind of friend too. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

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Even in this aching, you are not alone. You are growing. You are awakening. You are learning to befriend yourself in the presence of God’s unshakable love.

Hold this close:

💗 It’s not your fault they didn’t see your worth but it’s your responsibility to see it now.

You are deeply seen, beautifully loved, and slowly being led into truth.

One gentle unveiling at a time.