There are wounds we carry that don’t leave bruises — the ones that settle quietly in our souls, where shame, guilt, and confusion take root. Emotional abuse is one of those silent injuries. It doesn’t always shout. More often, it whispers.
It whispers guilt into your heart for having needs. It makes you question whether asking for clarity is “too much.” It teaches you to hush your voice, to dim your light, to retreat into silence… because silence feels safer than the pain of being misunderstood.
But beloved, that is not peace — it’s fear dressed in false comfort.
🌿 The Lie: “You’re Too Much”
So many of us were conditioned to believe that asking questions was disruptive. That expressing a need meant we were needy. That seeking honesty made it difficult and slowly — subtly — we started shrinking ourselves. We became agreeable. Accommodating. Quiet. Infvisable. Not because we didn’t feel, but because we didn’t feel safe to be fully seen.
We called it “keeping the peace.” but in truth, it was self-abandonment.
As I reflected on this journey, these words poured out of me:
"Emotional abuse doesn’t always shout. Sometimes, it whispers guilt into your soul for having needs, asking questions, or seeking truth. It teaches you to hush your heart and call it peace — when it’s really fear."
Healing starts the moment we stop believing that lie.
💔 The Cost of Silence
Silence is not always golden. Sometimes, it is a survival strategy.
We learn to scan the room for emotional cues. We sense the shifts. The sighs. The subtle punishments and without even realising it, we begin to silence ourselves before anyone else even has the chance.
But silence costs us everything: Our voice. Our boundaries. Our self-worth.
And eventually, we start forgetting what it’s like to live from a place of honesty, safety, and mutual respect.
✍🏼 Reflection Prompts
In what ways have I silenced my heart to keep others comfortable? 🤔
What lies about my needs or emotions have I been believing? 🤔
What truth does God want to speak over my voice today? 🤔
💖 The Truth That Heals
Here’s what I want you to know today — from one healing heart to another:
✨ You are not too much.
✨ You are allowed to have needs.
✨ You deserve clarity and kindness.
✨ You don’t have to apologise for asking.
God didn’t create you to disappear inside someone else’s comfort zone. He designed you to live boldly, truthfully, and lovingly — from a place of holy identity and divine worth.
“He has sent me to bind up the broken-hearted…” — Isaiah 61:1
Your voice is part of your healing and your healing will one day become someone else’s hope.
Sunday, 13 July 2025
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