There’s a sacred kind of grief that comes with hindsight — the ache of seeing where you fell short, especially with the ones you love most. This is a lesson I’ve learnt the hard way on my journey through inner healing. I’ve made all these mistakes and more with my precious boys… and by God’s grace, I’m learning to make amends.

Telling your child “I love you” is important.

Telling your child “I was wrong, I’m sorry” — that’s revolutionary.

One tells them they are loved.

The other teaches them humility, honesty, and character.

Most parents never apologise to their children.

They justify their behaviour.

They blame the child’s reaction.

They let their pride speak louder than their love.

Their ego is too fragile to admit: I was wrong.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth — when we refuse to apologise, we don’t teach our children to respect authority.

We teach them that power is a shield for bad behaviour.

We teach them that mistakes are shameful.

We teach them to bury their own failures instead of facing them with grace.

But when we sit eye-to-eye with our children and say “I’m sorry” — we give them something sacred.

We teach them that integrity matters more than pride.

That relationships can survive truth.

That real strength is found in owning our weakness.

Our children don’t need perfect parents.

They need honest ones.

Present ones.

Repentant ones.

Because in the Kingdom, love isn’t proven through perfection — it’s revealed through humility and healing.

So, if you’ve messed up (like I have), don’t wait for the perfect moment to make it right.

Swallow your pride. Say the words.

“I’m sorry. I was wrong.”

It might just be the greatest lesson you ever teach them.

And as you do, may you find healing for your own inner child too — the one who never heard those words when they mattered most.