Today, I was reminded of a quiet but powerful truth that shapes so many of our relationships, misunderstandings, and inner narratives.

The fundamental attribution error names a human tendency we rarely notice in ourselves. We attribute our own mistakes to circumstance, pressure, fatigue, misunderstanding, or survival. We explain ourselves by our intentions. We know our hearts. We remember what we meant, even when what we did fell short.

Others, however, are often judged differently. Their mistakes are attributed to character. We assume motive without context. We interpret behaviour as identity. We reduce a moment to a label, forgetting that we, too, have been reduced unfairly in moments when grace was absent.

We judge ourselves by intention.

We judge others by character.

This imbalance quietly fractures connection. It hardens empathy. It creates distance where understanding was possible. It also mirrors the very place where shame and fear first learned to speak loudly in many of us.

Scripture calls us into a different way of seeing, one shaped by humility, mercy, and truth.

Jesus does not deny discernment. He restores proportion. He invites us to examine our own hearts before pronouncing conclusions about others. He reminds us that we all live within context, carry unseen burdens, and act at times from wounded places rather than wicked ones.

When we slow down, curiosity replaces accusation. Compassion re-enters the room. Love becomes possible again.

🌱 This is not an invitation to excuse harm, minimise accountability, or deny wisdom. It is an invitation to hold truth and grace together, just as Christ does with us.

🪨 Truth without love wounds.

🌱 Love without truth drifts.

🕊️ Christ holds both, and teaches us to do the same.

💡 Reflection:

• Where do I explain my own actions by intention, while assuming character in others? 🤔

• When have I wished someone had asked about my context before drawing a conclusion? 🤔

• How might my relationships change if I led with curiosity instead of assumptions? 🤔

🎺 Affirmation:

I choose to see with mercy. I release quick judgment and receive Christ’s gentler lens. I am growing in wisdom, humility, and love.

🙌 Prayer:

Lord Jesus, You see every heart fully and truthfully. Teach me to pause where I would presume, to listen where I would label, and to love where I would judge. Heal the places in me that learned to protect themselves through assumption. Shape my eyes to reflect Yours, full of grace and truth.

 In Jesus’ Name, Amen.