People often say, “Why don’t you be the bigger person?” as if it means endlessly reaching out, fixing, or pouring yourself dry into a relationship that refuses to heal. I used to believe that too — that love meant stretching until I broke, or carrying the weight of reconciliation on my shoulders alone. Yet the Holy Spirit has been teaching me that sometimes, being the bigger person means recognising when to let go.

It is not bitterness. It is not unforgiveness. It is discernment.

Because not every connection is meant to continue, and not every silence needs to be filled with words.

Reaching out repeatedly only to meet the same wall of denial or unresolved conflict drains the life God has placed within us. Love and peace walk hand in hand, and sometimes the most loving thing we can do is to bless from a distance. To release the need to fix what only God can redeem. To trust that in His time, He can bring healing far deeper than our words could manage.

📖 “If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.” — Romans 12:18 (NKJV)

When I choose peace, I am not choosing weakness. I am choosing wisdom. I am choosing the freedom to walk forward, lightened of the constant weight of striving, into the abundant love and purpose God has for me.

 💡Reflection:

• Where in my life have I mistaken endless striving for true love?🤔

• Am I holding onto a relationship out of guilt or pressure rather than God’s leading?🤔

• How can I release someone with grace and still walk in love?🤔

🙌Prayer:

Lord Jesus, thank You for teaching me that peace is not passive but powerful. Help me to discern when to lean in and when to step back, always anchored in Your love. Guard my heart from bitterness and strengthen me to love without losing myself. Let me rest in the truth that You are the Redeemer of all things, and I can trust You with what I cannot carry. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.