The blame. The silence. The brokenness passed down like heirlooms — They were never your burden to fix.

You are not the glue for what others refused to hold together. You didn’t cause the wounds they neglected. You didn’t choose the chaos that shaped your childhood. And yet, somehow, you became the one holding it all.

Trying to be the calm in their storm.Trying to be the peace they never gave you. Trying to hold together a family that never learned how to hold you.

Beloved, that was never your job. It never was.

You don’t have to keep sacrificing your joy to soothe their regrets. You don’t owe them your healing just because they refused to pursue their own. You were never meant to shrink into someone smaller, quieter, more obedient — just to maintain a counterfeit peace.

Let it go. Drop the guilt. Lay down the striving. Walk away from the cycles that demand your spirit just to keep spinning.

You deserve rest. You deserve light. You deserve to live a life no longer shaped by someone else’s pain.

Even if they never change.Even if they never apologise.Even if they never understand.

You are free to build something softer — a sanctuary of peace, a home of your own making, where your soul can exhale and your heart can be held.

You were never meant to carry what Christ came to redeem. Let Him restore what was shattered. Let Him carry you.